for Mother’s Day and

on how to deal with childlessness

Today is Mother’s Day (what a cheeky reminder, as if you had forgotten that:-)). You and I didn’t invent this day.

But if you’re a mother like me, you’re looking forward to your children paying attention to you. Maybe you’re visiting your mother.

Over the years, I have come to know and appreciate 6 married couples who have entrusted me with their experiences as childless people – intentionally or unintentionally.

First of all, because it is still a taboo subject in many places. On the other hand, they feel that they have to justify their situation.

Two of them also told me that they feel discriminated against when it comes to holiday planning. Without people really knowing how they are doing, they are generally expected to show understanding for parents.

These people are already struggling a lot internally.

Even if there are still insensitive remarks or regulations, I miss the value-oriented society that I have come to appreciate so much in Germany and Switzerland.

And today, on Mother’s Day, I consciously ask myself how childless parents feel.

Diversity has many faces. Diversity is also diverse.

In the past, I really wasn’t aware of how people without children are doing in our society.

Listening to their stories touched me deeply and I realized how naïve I used to be towards “childless”.

I would therefore like to use this day to remind you to be more sensitive and mindful of people.

Especially when it feels like the whole world is celebrating Mother’s Day, I appeal to you:

To question and do your part for belonging for people without children. Empathetic listening and respect for this “being different” help enormously.

In the team, please do not assume that, among other things, people without children would like to forego their summer vacation. We never know what really moves people until we talk to each other.

Do not expect these people to show understanding for mothers / fathers if we, people with children, are not willing to show understanding ourselves. Diversity is not a one-way street.

If you are childless yourself – please do not lose your voice. Sometimes we are not aware of some things. It helps to know your side of the story.

What are your experiences with dealing with childlessness in our society?

Do you have any supplements?

I look forward to your suggestions.