“WHY DO THEY ONLY CONTROL ME?”September 5, 2022
“WELL, WELCOME TO LIFE, LIFE IS SHARP”September 19, 2022
My husband told me again the other day as he watched during a conversation as I left drawers open in the kitchen.
Because my way distracted him from the conversation. I could see how the “battlefield” itched him.
We both laughed and thought about what we decided years ago: We share (almost) everything, except the kitchen during a cooking project.
As you can see, diversity and the challenges associated with it start at home. Not only in the companies.
An everyday situation at home tells a lot about us.
My husband and I are very different when it comes to our working methods in the kitchen:
He: neat, immediately clears away waste and spices immediately back in place, drawers are consistently closed, all strictly according to time, without tasting the dish before serving.
Result: Excellent. When he cooks, I spontaneously gain weight.
Me: “Rooms-everything-at-once-on-style”: Collect waste first, leave drawers, if they are not in my way, open until I am finished with my cooking project, so that it goes faster, everything according to feeling and the cooked absolutely cost.
Considering that I am the QM lerin:-)
Result from his point of view: Excellent, mostly:-)
I always transfer this knowledge to my professional environment.
If there are no standards and good reasons why everyone should do something similar, respecting other working methods is a powerful tool to make room for new things.
Recognizing that “being different” is enriching creates great results and in turn solidifies relationships.
For some couples, cooking together may be a team-building activity.
For us, separate cooking is the measure. Not even recipe details are revealed. This letting go is ingenious.
The result is astounding.
Sometimes we are so engrossed in a topic that we forget this rule.
Then he realizes: “That’s right, the kitchen for me is currently closed”.
So he lives a long time if he does not unnecessarily burden himself with the question of whether he should give me a hint or not.
The same applies to me: I also realize “True, you need space”, because he moves a lot to immediately put away things that are no longer needed.
Isn’t it wonderful to give space to others to unfold without us interfering?
What I give you: let go, let it be done differently than you are used to. You live longer (maybe:-)), definitely happier.
I remember beaming as a young intern when my boss told me, “Susan, I trust you. Do it as you see fit.”
What kind of story do you have? In a private or professional context?