You may be familiar with it. It’s clear that you like to watch movies together, in pairs, threes, fours…

But how did you come to the decision to make a film? What if you can’t reach a consensus?

Ever since we’ve known each other, my husband and I have enjoyed watching movies. The two of us didn’t notice how blatant and long the decision-making process can be.

When our twins developed their own opinions and strongly represented them, it took a very long time to reach an agreement, or at least one person was dissatisfied.

At the same time, it was wonderful to observe the role diversity plays in one’s own family.

About 3 years ago, we agreed on this:

Everyone decides on a film, the others consciously get involved with it. There is a certain order.

That was the best decision.

At the beginning, we observed how difficult it is to get involved with other film ideas.

… and how impatient our daughter/son was – so that they were creative with ways of influencing us to make decisions in their senses.

Limits have been tested.

At some point, curiosity prevailed.

Consciously engaging with others’ film choices is an incredibly exciting journey that we all now respect and enjoy.

For my part, I now see films that I would have categorically rejected in the past (such as Star Wars) through the eyes of my children: a wonderful exercise in not being quick to judge.

I’m always learning:

🔸️How relaxing it is to trust in the decision of others

🔸️How enriching it is to immerse yourself in the world of others

🔸️How easy it is to get to know others better

About a year ago, our son had the idea that we would rate all the films afterwards. He documents everything meticulously.

Over time, it becomes clear which movies we all like to watch. Among the top 5 are currently:

📍The Dark Knight

📍Lord of the Rings Part 1 & 3

📍Avengers: Endgame

📍Monsieur Claude and His Daughters Part 1

A colleague recently shared with me her dilemma regarding film decisions. I told her about our approach: she immediately suggested it herself in the family. “It’s been very well received,” she said 1 week later.

Why do I love this process?

I also see parallels to the (lived) diversity in the corporate world. Far too often, it is held on as it has always been. Getting involved in other approaches seems difficult.

Especially when new people join, it’s a big surprise that they bring different approaches with them.

It is so enriching to question familiar ways and simply let them do things responsibly, as long as the goal is clear.

This relaxes and takes you much further as a family/team.

What is your experience?

Wish you a great start into the new year 2024.